It’s easy to blame others for our struggles. We get stuck in pointing fingers at our parents, the economy, our spouse or even our friends. While we’re stuck in this phase, we are unwilling to look at ourselves and our own responsibility. Why do we stay there? Is it comfort, fear of looking at our own doing or lack of doing? Is it self-preservation of what we like to believe ourselves to be? Is it the fear of what we might not be ready to discover?

Once we start looking inward, we are starting a journey of self-discovery. With dedication and time, we climb up the ladder of consciousness.

Most get stuck in being inactive or hyperactive, some will move on to productivity and happiness, were we meet up with courage, neutrality, willingness, and acceptance. Peak performance happens on the level of reason, where everything lines up and being at our best doesn’t equal stress. Joy, Gratitude, Love, Peace, and Enlightenment is where synchronicity and extraordinary outcomes are promised.

Once we move to a level of reason, we step outside of our limited vantage point into understanding other’s and compassion is learned. Life’s ups and downs will over time as we age and gather life experience introduce us to these different stages, with each challenge we overcome, and work through, we gain these valuable virtues.

One might ask, “How can I reach such peak performance without stress?” My answer would be, hard work, willingness to learn from other’s, get up and try repeatedly, even after failure, knowing that each time there is something to be gained. It’s what I tell my client’s when they attend anxiety therapy. We work on lowering the symptoms of anxiety by learning new coping skills and then we climb the mountain repeatedly, figuratively. We confront the fears that are the reasons that my client are in anxiety therapy, until with continued exposure it seems nothing like a small pebble in their life journey or a smooth road. What’s gained from the experience is a powerful tool that will help your reach your goals such as overcoming your triggers that are causing your anxiety. It might be perseverance, faith, daily coping skills to manage your emotions, happiness, setting healthy boundaries, or consistency. Once your open the door and start this conscious journey you are taking charge of your life. You now are the creator and no longer the victim. During trauma counseling you are taught to take back your power. Challenges become learning opportunities and overcoming them gives us a feeling of peace and confidence. Letting go of some of our fears, will allow us to move upward feeling lighter and happier. This is not an easy task, it’s a happiness that is not handed down to us, it is something that we choose.

Step 1

Choose your life to be about more than material aspects

Step 2

Focus on what’s gained from each experience, rather than getting bogged down by what happened.

Step 3

Know that when your avoiding things, they are still there. They are lingering as unresolved. Weighing your down and making it much more difficult to reach your goals.

Step 4

Know your level of consciousness, your thoughts and actions are the once that will reflect where you are.

Step 5

Take care of your physical body, you will need good health to reach any of your goals and apply healthy coping skills daily.

Step 6

Take care of your mind. Get outside counseling or support if you lose insight in yourself and feel stuck. Things are often easier for people to see from the outside looking in. During my client’s anxiety treatment, I remind them, “These are suggestions, you make the choices since they are your consequences (positive or negative) to live with”.

Step 7

Action is required to make your dreams come true. Yes, sometimes opportunity will knock at your door, know that social interactions will increase your opportunities to find the support you need to reach your goals.

Step 8

Be confident with your choices, once you make one, give it your 100 %.

Step 9

Be kind to yourself in the process.

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